February 14, 2019

How to Keep at Your New Year's Resolutions (Even After January)

Now that we're more than a month into the New Year, some people have already started failing at their New Year's resolutions. It's a sad fact, but a fact nonetheless, most people don't make it past January with their goal to be a 'new' them for the year. And I get it: in fact, most years, I fall off the wagon with some goals too. It's nothing to be ashamed of, cause it happens to the best of us, but it's something to learn from.

I think that's the most important part of a New Year's resolution. Not completing the resolution itself, but learning and growing from trying to change certain aspects of yourself or your life, seeing how you perform and react to change, and seeing how hard you persist with a lofty goal. It's definitely hard, but if you make it through the year, it's worth it.


My resolutions this year are a little vaguer than normal, because I'm letting one word guide me instead of goals. But that doesn't mean I can't fall off the wagon. In fact, it's easier than ever. So I spent some time reflecting on all progress I've made on resolutions throughout the years, considering those I succeeded with and those I failed at, and I decided to share the magic potion to staying on track with your resolutions past January!

ONE // SET REALISTIC GOALS

I feel like this one is pretty much the reason why most people fail at their New Year's resolutions: they create too big of goals that are highly unlikely to be achieved in one shot. Instead of putting "clear all debt" or "lose 100 pounds" on your list, aim for something a little more achievable.

Know yourself and what you're actually going to do before making a goal that you'll more than likely not achieve. So instead of "lose 100 pounds", make your resolution to eat healthier for the year, or get to the gym more. Being realistic sets you up for success in the long run.


TWO // WORK AT THEM EVERY DAY

It's called a New YEAR's resolution for a reason: they'll happen over a year's time. It doesn't happen overnight, and it's totally unrealistic to expect that to happen. The beauty of a resolution is that it's meant to change your habits, and that takes time and requires you to put in work. If you want to get out of debt, you can't just save money on one day and expect that to make a significant difference. It's important to learn and understand that in order to keep the goals you made for yourself, you'll have to work at them, even a little bit, every single day!


THREE // DON'T BEAT YOURSELF UP FOR A BAD DAY

That being said.. not every day is going to be perfect. If you're really trying to eat healthier, and you have one bad day of eating like total crap, that's OKAY! It's okay to have ups and downs – in fact, it's healthy.

It's important to recognize that it's alright to have a bad day, but you can't let yourself turn it into a bad week or a bad month, because soon it'll be a bad year. This is what you call 'all or nothing' type of thinking – and breaking this mindset is the first thing you should do if you ever want to succeed in any goals you set.


FOUR // REWARD YOURSELF

Listen, New Year's resolutions are hard. If they were easy, everyone would keep theirs year after year, and the world would be a happier, healthier, wealthier place, right? But they're hard: and that's not to be forgotten, so find ways to reward yourself for staying on track.

Say your resolution is to exercise more, create mini-rewards to keep you going! Exercise 5 days this week? Treat yourself to something nice. Make it through a month of consistent exercise? Reward yourself with a little gift. These small encouragements will help you continue to crush your goals day by day and month by month!

FIVE // KEEP YOURSELF ACCOUNTABLE

If you want to do something this year: talk about it. Tell everyone you know. Beg friends to join in on the resolution with you. Make a group chat to encourage each other to stick at it. Tweet, Facebook, Instagram the journey. Let the world know what you want to do, because if it's out there, you'll be shamed into actually doing it. Because no one wants to be the person who didn't achieve their goals!

So find someone who has a similar goal as you this year, or just ask a friend if you two can hold each other accountable for your individual resolutions, and then stick to it! Keep in touch regularly and encourage each other. Share your wins, share your mistakes and even share when you fail – because you'll get back up and go again and again this year!

So.. now that February is in full swing, will you still keep at your New Year's resolutions? 
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11 comments:

  1. These are great tips! I definitely agree that focusing on attainable goals is really important and it's always good to get a strong support system behind you. I don't set resolutions but I do set monthly goals for myself that I revisit at the start of every month to check my progress.

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  2. Great reminder that new years resolutions are not just for one day! I love your tip to talk about it and to keep yourself accountable in that way. I have done it this year and feel like it is the motivation I need to keep going. thanks for sharing xx

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  3. Awesome tips! My worse habit was always beating myself up for a bad day, and then feeling like I should just give up, but I've definitely improved over the years. I'm doing really well with my goals this year - in fact I've already read 20 books!

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  4. great tips! i never make resolutions. I plan goals with no deadline, the point isn't reaching the within a time frame, but more just gneral growth

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  5. Yes to all of this! I always set a big goal, end up realizing it's hard to achieve, then set a more realistic one!

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  6. Rewarding myself is always a great way to keep on track! I have a bunch of big goals but have tried to break them down by month to make them easier to accomplish :)

    -xo, Azanique | https://www.lotsofsass.com

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  7. These are such helpful tips! I am terrible at resolutions and that is why I just set small goals.

    April | https://thebluehydrangeas.com

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  8. I totally agree that you can't give up on a goal just because you have set backs and failures. Bad days happen and the best thing to do is to let go of it and try to do better the next day (:

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  9. oh gosh this is definitely not something im good at! Horrible about new years resolutions so these tips are helpful!

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  10. These are great tips! Such an important topic, too. So many people let their resolutions slide before they've gotten very far into the year.

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  11. I was never really a fan of making new years resolutions, however I'm all about making goals monthly, goals I know I would be able to do.

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